Have you ever heard of the Yes Theory? I hadn’t either, until a friend mentioned it to me during a Skype session a couple weeks ago. I looked it up and ever since, my perspective on life has changed. The Yes Theory was started by four guys who decided to start living life by seeking discomfort. By seeking discomfort, by saying Yes, they have had experiences we can only dream of! They have also met countless amazing people, and their blind faith in humanity has risen exponentially. Here is a link to their video explaining their journey: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_g6_yLNSg-c.
The Yes Theory is all about confronting what makes you afraid, or uncomfortable. Now, I have mentioned in previous blog posts that I have anxiety. It used to be much worse than it is now, but going to college far from home and studying abroad helped me grow. I’ve recently done some spiritual soul searching and have come to recognize that I’ve actually been dealing with my anxiety in a very unhealthy way. For a long time now, I have buried the anxiety by telling myself that everything is fine and I’m not actually nervous. Fake it till you make it, right? No. Bad idea. This ignores the anxiety and allows it to fester while you “pretend” to be fine. This always comes back around, by causing the anxiety to build and build until a breakdown occurs. You suddenly can’t handle anything. This is NOT the way to live, and I realize that now.
Teal Swan, a strong spiritual and intuitive, always says that confronting your feelings head on is the best way to deal with them. I recently started applying this idea to my anxiety and it has worked wonders. I am learning to sit with my anxiety and accept it as what is, but not as something that defines me. This allows the anxiety to be felt while also keeping it at bay, because you know it is not an end all be all. There is emotional freedom in letting yourself accept the hardest, most negative sides of your personality. By accepting them, you take control, and are then able to guide the feelings to the backdrop, after they have their moment to shine.
Now, how does this apply to Yes Theory?
If Yes Theory is about seeking discomfort, then accepting fear and anxiety is the first step. You have to first recognize what you are feeling, and what is holding you back, before you can push your boundaries. For example, I have always been afraid of deep water. However, this past week, I went camping in the Adirondacks and learned to kayak. I fell in love. One night, my brother suggested I go midnight kayaking on the lake. At first, I felt resistance, because I am afraid of deep water, especially at night time. I first sat with that initial fear and let myself feel it, and then I said Yes. And it was one of the most peaceful experiences of my life. The water was still and looked like black glass. There were no clouds, and a full moon peeking out from behind the mountains. The sky was a dome and I was encased in a beauty I would never had known existed if I’d said no.
First is acceptance of your fear. Second is the acceptance of discomfort. Third is an experience that changes perspective. The more you practice the first two steps, the easier your life can incorporate the third.
I want to say thank you to Teal Swan and the Yes Theory guys for helping me on a path to change. I have so much planned for my life, and this is the way I want to live it. Stay tuned for more Yes Theory moments during my trip this autumn/winter!